Friendship and Romance

As a new employee, she was introduced in our department and I knew I saw the most beautiful girl with the sweetest smile. She was 19; I was 22. We became friends. Finding that we enjoyed each other’s company, I courted her, while other gentlemen were likewise competing for her attention. She chose me. It took six years for both of us to decide to get married. It has nearly been 25 memorable years since Debbie and I lived together as friends, as lovers and as couple.
Settling down with a spouse does not come out of the blue; rather it is a series of events that begin with acquaintance until the solemnisation of the marriage vows. While there are a few instances when childhood friendship could lead to a lifetime journey as husband and wife, in most times, the person whom we commit our life ‘til death do us part’ is one whom we may not know from Adam until the time of introduction. Love may come from the most unexpected places, but it is usually just around the corner or within close surroundings.
It is through formal groupings or informal events that friendship can blossom. For friendship is the precursor to romance. It is never a good idea to rush into romance. It is only through time and association that a meaningful understanding of each other can be attained. As George Washington puts it: "True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation." Respect towards the other is another key to a lasting relationship. Holding the other in esteem will make friendship flourish that can continue even if romance does not happen. "A friend loves at all times." (Psalm 17:17)

Most importantly, guidance and protection of God must be sought always. Debbie, years later, told me that she prayed fervently before she made her choice of me as her boyfriend. In our six years as boyfriend-girlfriend we had shares of ups and downs in our relationship. In all instances we called on the Lord for us the weather through the storms. "Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee." (Psalm 55:22)
Finally, the devil finds relationship of opposite sexes a fertile ground for temptation and sin; thus being prayerful is pivotal. The Lord will send His angels to shield love-struck individuals from lust and passion. "Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak." (Mark 14:38)

by Mel Libre